I’m sure it was a lonely world for Abraham Lincoln who was in the habit of failing in elections and who was also in the habit of going for higher positions each time he failed.
Each of this people had one thing in common-they had a strong faith in themselves.
Having a faith in yourself is the only that thing that can help you make decisions you won’t regret. It’s very easy to join the crowd, wear the same uniform, look like everyone else. It’s very easy. However, being you is the hardest to thing to do. It’s usually easy to pretend everything is okay than to say how you really feel about things and even harder when that opinion differs from everyone else’s.
Magazines tell us how to dress and how shameful it is to be
fat or ugly. Stars show us to live and behave when we are rich and popular.
Society, peers, groups shows and conditions us on who to be and how to behave.
Some of us are so afraid to look inwards. Some of us are afraid to discover
what we really want or who we really want to be.
How
did we get here? If you can’t be you,
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| "there's no crowd, can't you see?" |
who would you rather be? You could be
out
there envying the life one celebrity
who you feel his life is perfect.
If that
were so, why do some of them commit suicide, abuse drugs and go through seasons
of
depression and therapy?
Nobody’s life is perfect.
Life is as beautiful as
you make it.
As you make your bed, so you lie on it.
The key to all of this is to be comfortable in your own skin; to
believe in yourself; to make decisions you are responsible for; to know what
you want and go for it; to stop following the crowd because there is no crowd.
Do you realize if you make any mistake as a result of a poor choice you made
out of peer pressure, you and you alone will live with it? True, your friends
might come around visit you in the hospital (or any other place as the case may
be); soon enough, they will move on and you alone will have to live with
whatever consequence your decision incurred.
At the end of the day, the only thing you have is you and
your decisions. They are the only things that are permanently yours. I’m not
downplaying the importance of family support and all those sacrifices they have
made and will make to see you become a great person. However, if you refuse to
make something out of your life despite all their sacrifices, they might write
you off as that son/daughter who decided to be a problem; then you will have to
live with the burden of their disappointment and the burden of your years of
wrong decisions. Does it make any sense to you?
If you are still trying to
understand what I’m saying,
look at that drug addict that patrols your
neighborhood,
does his family or friends come every day
to give him money for
food and drugs?
Remember that your classmate that had to
drop out of school
because she got pregnan
t and had to withdraw from school because
she has to
care for her baby?
The worst of all is that the boy denied being the father, so
she fills the role of a father and a mother, roles she is not even prepared
for. I heard of a classmate who was shot
to death because he smoked weed, attacked a police officer who misfired and
shot him to death. I remember two course mates who went for a party. The driver
was either drunk or careless and the girls didn’t notice because one lost her
life, the other her arm. The one that lost her arm lives today out of divine
providence; it was a long time before she resumed school. I also know of one
who went mad as a result of drug addiction; he later died. At times, I wonder
how their lives would have been if they made different choices.
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